no phone, texting, email relationships for this girl

so one of my really good friends (has a best friend) that has a theory, did you follow all of that?  said friend's best friend thinks when approaching online dating you should not email, text, and talk on the phone for a long period of time investing in this person, as you just don't know if there will be any sparks or chemistry.  i didn't always use this theory, mainly because i typically let the guys lead in how we move forward, but i am thinking she is on to something.  when you spend sometimes two and three weeks getting to know a guy through all forms of communication, you are investing in that person... let me be the first to say, IT IS EXHAUSTING.  i have met quite a few guys after doing things this way all for it to fall FLAT. 

i mentioned in a previous post, jeremy, well this is what was happening in the case with him.  actually there were many things going on with him, but i'll try my best to sum it up.  he had a pretty dull personality, but his faith was so important to him, so i wanted to try and last until he wanted to meet.  so, first he emailed and emailed... finally he asked for my and texted to the point where i felt smothered... then he finally called, after i had to ask him too, really?  why does a 35 year old man need prompting, so frustrating and annoying.  after about two and a half weeks, he never initiated us meeting, so i again had to speak up.  he seemed really shy and actually thought that i didn't want to meet up, really?  he lived between charlotte and columbia, sc, so i get that he would need to drive, but homeboy was also between jobs.  he used to coach college football, but was going to teaching and taking a high school football job so that was even more annoying that he wasn't making plans for us to meet, knowing he wasn't even working. 

i ended up telling him that i wasn't looking for a relationship in which i never met the guy, he flipped out and actually was pretty mean and refused to stop texting me.... this was the day prior to my lasik eye surgery...i will give him this... he is persistent.  he is still texting me, somewhat randomly, but what part of, "I am just not interested in pursuing this further," did he not understand.

i am telling you, i meet the closet weirdos, there are many other things about this guy, but i shortened it to this little snipet, on to the next one and many other fun times ahead:)