so last week i went out with a guy (on tuesday) who had a few "red flags" from the start, but someone recently told me i need to call them caution flags instead, as red flags are like really bad or deal breakers, so i will say he had caution flags.
caution flags::
1. he was catholic, not for me, but when i asked him about it, he said he wasn't active in any church and would be open to a discussion or going to other churches
2. he openly discussed how much he loved to drink, really
so, we both discussed how much we hated the talking, texting, or emailing for weeks on end prior to meeting, so we decided we would rather meet quickly and see if there was a spark or not. so, funny story, i had had lasik and wanted to wait to meet him when i could wear eye makeup, so i kept telling him thursday would work best, he said that didn't really work for him. he asked if he could call and discuss, and i said yes. when he called, he said, "the reason thursday doesn't work is because it is valentine's day." i started dying laughing, clearly i have been single so long, i completely forgot that it was even v-day, such a ridiculous holiday, if you ask me.
so, we made plans to meet last tuesday and i would just wear minimal eye make up, i know the rule follower breaking rules, haha. first of all, he looks (while this is not the most important thing), it is factors into part of it. from the waist up, he was very attractive, but something was off. he kind of waddled, like a pregnant women. i won't harp on this, but it was off-putting. if he had had every other quality i wanted, i would have gotten past this, but he did not.
he had a great personality, made me laugh a lot, but we did not add up in a lot of different areas. he talked a lot about his love of drinking. i told him that i really don't like to drink. i said, i am a lightweight and really could do without it. he said, "well this works out perfectly, because i have always wanted a permanent DD." i was like, really? i know he thought it was funny, but i didn't agree, as i really don't want to be with an alcoholic. he then went on to explain that he doesn't go to church, but wanted to know if i would be open to attending a catholic service with him. i stumbled on my answer, as i wanted to be nice and not sound like i was speaking bad of his beliefs but the truth is, i am very invested in my church and i do not want to go to a service with him when he is not invested anywhere. he said he loves a traditional church service, i do not. big differences here.
he also only wanted to meet me for drinks, not coffee or for a meal, this is also something i do not like. if you paid attention to what i like, then you would know that drinks would never be my idea of a good first date.
so, unfortunately, we were not a good pair, he wasn't a bad date, but we won't be going on a 2nd. i think some girls lose sight of what is important and would go back on dates with guys because they have that initial spark or because he has a great personality, but in my heart i know that all relationships have to have God in the center or it will never work. i would rather be single forever than to have to settle with someone in which this is not the case.
sunday's date coming next....
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