this one has a lot of nicknames

so, i absolutely love that my friends are into this nickname thing, it is quite fun coming up with the nickname.  i really hope my future husband enjoys that he too will have a nickname, but i surely hope he gets a sweet one in the beginning!  so, we have a new guy that has entered the scene folks.  i haven't met him yet, and typically i try not to blog about it until i meet him, but i felt like i had enough material to go ahead and start one.  so, said guy's nicknames are sweettalkintodd or ladder31.  you see, my best friend since the great age of 5 is playing matchmaker.  she doesn't typically like this role, as she has tried before and it didn't work out.  she met sweettalkintodd at a fire conference with her husband last year and then saw him again this year.  so, she set this in motion and here we are.  you see, he quickly became "STT" for short because from the very first text he sent me, he has called me "sweetie."  this makes me want to vomit.  now don't get my wrong, eventually one day, i am sure if my boyfriend or husband wants to call me sweetie or some sweet name, i will be okay with it, but to me someone calling me that that has never once met me, it feels cheap.  it is probably something he calls every girls he talks to.  literally, every text he addresses to me, has the word sweetie in it, which makes it difficult for me to want to respond.  STT also keeps his name because all he does is text, which is this girls number one pet peeve.  (ladder31 comes from the fact that he is a fire fighter and he is 31 years old.)

so, in the week or so he has had my number, he has only called once.  he has texted me everyday, but he only texts twice a day, with the exactly same robotic text daily... "good morning sweetie or beautiful" in the morning and then "goodnight sweetie, hope you had a good day."  if someone could please explain to me how i am supposed to get to know someone by two simple texts a day, i would love to know.  literally, he doesn't ask questions, doesn't call, and this girl is already super annoyed.  so, last night i called him out on it... think that did any good, absolutely not.  i mean, i'd really like to get to know him, the one conversation we did have, he seemed super nice.

we have a date planned for this coming sunday, but this weekend i had my saturday night open up so i offered to him.  any single girl knows, opening up one of your prime weekend nights to a guy you do not know is huge.  i texted him (his favorite means of communication) on friday and told him and offered to meet him at the halfway point (um, how nice is that) and he said, "well... i will have to let you know if i can work that out."  well, okay, not exactly one of the two responses i was expecting, but okay, STT, you do that, and let me know.  this Type A girl wanted a response ASAP, just a simple yes or no, but of course, he never bothered to follow back up.  so at 9:30pm saturday night he texted me and said his typical goodnight message.  i was so annoyed and irritated.  so, of course, with my no filter, i called him out and asked why he at least didn't let me know one way or the other.  he said, he didn't want to bother me?  say what?  i explained to him that if a girl offers to go out with you earlier, that means she wants to go, that isn't bothering her?  i told him we could just call it miscommunication, but in all honesty, i was very clear in my communication to him, he just didn't get it???

you are probably wondering why i am even still considering going on date that is planned for sunday, well because i know i am quirky, i know i have super high standards, and i know that sometimes i can make assumptions and so, i am trying really hard to give him a chance.  maybe he will surprise me on sunday in person.  i have a work trip that requires three hours of driving tomorrow evening and we are supposed to talk then, so we will see.

on a side note, my great neighbors/friends have maybe convinced me to try christian mingle.  i am going to pray about it this week, but i guess i figure why not, at least i would have a little more confidence that the guy signed up on a christian dating website, right?

update:: STT or ladder31 never followed up on taking me out or meeting for dinner or coffee.  for lack of a better explanation, i think it is safe to say that he was just clueless.  i literally sent him a text saying the following "So, I told myself I would give it until today (Sunday the day of the planned date).  When we spoke last Wednesday, we discussed and I thought made tentative plans to meet today/tonight.  Since you haven't called all week and today came and you made no mention of it... I think it is safe to say, this isn't going anywhere.  Not exactly sure what it is, but I just want to meet a guy who wants to genuinely get to know me and take me out so he can get to know me better.  So with all of that, I think we can move on and say good luck and be just fine:)"  to which i got a simple reply an hour later, that said, "Ok well good luck"  

folks, i cannot make this stuff up, i say it all the time, so another one bites the dust.

melvin, such a memorable one

i thought i'd quickly write about this one... it is a good one.  note to self:: don't ever agree to go on a blind date with a wish mom's nephew.  i was a new wish granter in 2008 and had just moved to charlotte.  said wish mom asked if i was single, to which the answer unfortunately is always, yes.  maybe i should wear my biological father's engagement ring he had given to my mother many moons ago and say, no to avoid this question, always.  back to story... she then proceeded to go on and on about her nephew that she would LOVE to set me up with. i was very hesitant only knowing this lady for all of five minutes, but a lunch or dinner can only last so long, right?  i actually tried to avoid her follow up calls pertaining to this set up, but she was very persistent, i'll give her that. so, she preceded to tell me that her nephew's name was, get ready... "Melvin."  oh dear, what a name.  my best friend, holly, has a thing with names, and usually it doesn't bother me, but for some reason this one did... what a name, haha.  so, he called and i could tell he was very country.  many of you who know me, know that i have a thick southern accent, so this wasn't off putting to me, too much, but this was that real country!  so we talk on the phone once or twice and then he tells me that he wants to take me to, get ready... Ruth's Chris, say what?  for a first date, um... let me think on that one, NO.  what if he is missing teeth, what if i cannot carry on a conversation with him face to face, i can think of nowhere that would be worse.  so i had to legitimately explain why i didn't want to go there, haha.  still to this day, haven't been and would love to, but that wasn't the appropriate time.  so, we agreed on a lunch date at chili's.  he shows up, mind you, i still haven't seen him, and he was literally the skinniest guy i think i have ever seen.  last time i checked, i was not a size 0 and never have been, so this was a huge turn off to me.  on top of this, he had on wrangler jeans circa 1990 with a braided belt, loafers, and a blue/yellow checkered short sleeve button up... i honestly couldn't believe it.  i know i sound super shallow right now, but this outfit was something a grandpa might wear, the braided belt about sent me over the edge.  regardless, we went in and had lunch and the conversation was just straight up painful.  we had absolutely nothing in common.  after the 45 minute lunch, we walked outside and he said, "i'd love to do this again sometime."  i said, "thank you so much for lunch.  have a great day."  i really hope he found someone that he had lots in common with, but good ole melvin wasn't for me.