so, i'll take you back to december. this guy emailed me, seemed pretty normal, immediately talked about his faith, and so we exchanged numbers. there is no general rule that i have as to when i will give a guy my number, more of just a general sense or feel as to how i feel it is going, ha. so he called, convos went well for about a week or maybe a little longer, but i could tell he was a talker. as any one who knows me, you know i like to talk, so a guy that talks equally as much or more, is typically not good for me, haha. regardless, we continued to get to know each other. all of this was during the holidays, so he never once asked to meet up. this is actually not out of the norm, i didn't sign up to have a phone/texting relationship. it is straight up annoying. one sunday after church he called, and i was already frustrated that he had made no plans to meet up, but he tells me that he is possibly going to get a manicure, SAY WHAT??? now, please don't let me offend any readers or their husbands/boyfriends for that matter, but remember i grew up in lincolnton, in the country. i guess, the best way for me to put this is that i want a country boy. while i would love for him to present himself well (dress well), i can work on that later, and i surely don't want someone who spends more time on himself or takes longer to get ready than i do. i told him i wasn't interested and left it at that.
fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached back out and wanted to take me to dinner, so we went to dinner.
let me first tell you a funny story. so i thought may i heard him wrong back in december about the manicures, so he text me to see finalize plans and i was actually getting a mani/pedi and told him this. his response, no lie... "i am so jealous." DO WHAT?? he said, "there should be a rule against guys rocking ugly feet in flip flops." i thought i was going to do fall out. too much for this girl. i need a man's man!!!
so dinner... i will start by saying he was dressed VERY well, he looked very nice, but that won't get you far if your personality isn't of interest to me. homeboy literally didn't stop talking during a three hour date, except for maybe 20 minutes total. at times, i tried very hard to interrupt, which i try not to do, but that didn't even get him to hush. he literally loved to talk about himself and all of his accomplishments. there wasn't one thing in this world that he couldn't do... a true know-it-all. he said, "the only repair person i have ever had at my house is the AC guy. i do it all, fix my own cars, build everything..." the list goes on and on. also, he tells me that he hasn't ever had any desire to be rebellous at all, now this may sound like a dream, but he literally said, "i don't think i have ever broken any rule or disobeyed the law." i laughed at dinner. that may be the only time i laughed, but i couldn't believe it... what in this world. i mean, i am rule follower, but in high school my friends and i were stupid and we enjoyed doing silly things. i loved sneaking out of my house to go to yesterdays (a "club" where you could be 14 to get in on friday nights), i loved driving after 9, even though we weren't supposed to, all kids go through this stage, right??? i mean, he said, the one and only thing he has ever failed at in his life was his marriage. he was married at 21 and divorced at 30, but even then he said, that she left him and it was kind of out of his control. i don't think anything has ever been more unattractive, there was no humility or humbleness to this guy. NOT FOR ME.
while i'd be the first to say that i have so many quirky things about me, this guy was a doozie. it stinks though because he is a great christian guy, but our personalities did not mesh... another one bites the dust.
sometimes i get tired...
hilarious but you are SO smart
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