texting versus calling

just a quick little update...

so, recently a lot of the guys i was emailing with on match decided that they wanted to switch forms of communication by getting my number.  back in the day, this may have been a lot harder to manage (sounds like i am dating a lot of guys, but i am not.. read on... i explain), but 99% of them text only, they never call.  i am talker, i love to talk and i like to learn more about the guy too.  texting is dumb when getting to know someone.  i honestly don't mind texting normally, but in the beginning how in the world can you get to know someone when all you text is one line things, "how are you?" or "how was your day?" it is hard too because you don't know if they are sitting down and want to continually text you or not, i could go on and on with my frustrations, but i will stop there for a minute.

so, guy 1 (we will call him "hunter") immediately bypassed emailing and asked for my number, i gave it to him thinking that he would probably text a lot, not at all... he says hardly anything.  literally he asked me my NYE plans, told me about driving back from a recent family vacay, and i am at a loss as to what i am supposed to say?  is it my responsibility to ask all the questions?  i sure hope not, but if you called me, i could carry on a conversation any day.

so, guy 2 (we will call him "gamecock") emailed a little and then sent me an email that said, "okay, i think we have emailed enough that i think you are legitimate."  ok wow.  so, then he started texting me, and at least he held somewhat of a conversation... he asked one point blank question, "why am i still single?"  really, i have no idea other than to say that clearly it hasn't been in God's will and perfect timing, do i think there is something wrong with me, no, but sometimes we don't know the why and we just have to choose to trust:)  how do you say all of that through text, i had to shorten it a lot, haha.  then he asked another strange question, or at least i thought it was, he asked me to send a picture to him...really.  okay, while it may be okay for others, not judging others here, but this girl is not going to hold her phone up and take a picture of herself nor am i going to stand in front of a mirror to take a picture... it will never happen. period.  so, i said, are the ones on my profile not enough, i had to crop those to have any by myself, i just don't take pictures by myself, not my thing.  apparently, his reasoning was that he wanted to save my picture to my phone number, do you have that many girls that you are dating/talking to that you can't sort them all out or remember them without having a picture?  what.in.the.world.  he seems very nice aside from this, and he is a country boy, so we will see:)

so, guy 3 (my favorite right now), we can call him "favorite."  he seem very normal and my type from the emails we exchanged.  yesterday he asked for my number, "so he could give me a call sometime."  i thought, even more my type, he is actually going to call and not just text.  wrong, he text me today... not that it would be a problem, but i was excited to hear from him, and he just stopped responding, so annoying.

can someone please explain to me why this is the popular form of communication.  i hate it when getting to know a guy.  i want to talk to them, i want to get to know the basics, and it makes it so much harder.  i have a smartphone, so texting isn't hard or anything, i just want to be able to have a conversation that flows.  goodness this generation is rarely focused on one thing, we all are so easily distracted and this only adds fuel to those fires.  i think gamecock and i were texting and he disappeared for like 20 minutes... he came back and said, sorry i was folding clothes?

okay, i guess i am over my venting now, but i will continue to hope and pray that guys will actually call, maybe a mix of the two would be nice:)

oh dating why are you so awkward?