the music man

so, i have been laying low on the dating scene lately and truly trying to trust what is in God's plan.  i signed up for six months on match, so it was about to end soon, on may 27th.  match has a sixth  month guarantee, if you do not meet someone, they will give you six more months for free, not going to lie, i feel so stupid that i would qualify for this, but at this point, i cannot have any pride.... i hide nothing, ha.  it was exactly one week before my initial six months was to end, i'd still been checking out the "daily matches," but that was about it.  i didn't know if God was trying to tell me to close my account on the 27th or opt into the additional six months.  so, a week prior, i was about to go to bed and was looking through the matches, and a guy pops up that i could hardly believe (haha, i laugh at myself, please feel free to join me)...

here is a quick run down
* he works in financial sales at a bank - is employed, haha
* he talked about his faith and how that was a deal breaker for him (somewhat rare on match in general) - seriously AWESOME
* he is a part time music ministry coordinator at a church (definitely know that his faith is important)
* he likes country music (um, love this)
* he likes four wheelers and target shooting (country boy - check)
* he was cute
* huge carolina fan (GO HEELS)

so, i immediately called lindsey jo and told her and her fiance about said guy.  lindsey is constantly telling me that her and andy are praying for me and my future husband.  so, i just ask them to pray for clarity, God's will, me to have patience, for this guy to contact me (email me via match), etc.  andy said, "well, kelsey, do you want us to pray right now?"  note:: we should all make it a habit to pray more often for our friends/family on the spot.  i have never in my entire life, heard such a sweet prayer.  the fact that God has sent a man to my best friend, who loves her so  much, and in turn, he loves her best friend... is seriously the best.  i was crying through the whole prayer.

so, back to the post and said guy, he emailed me the next night!!! without boring all of you with lots of random facts about said guy, whose real name was jeremy, but lindsey gave him the nickname of "the music man, we got to know the surface level stuff and had so much in common.  i couldn't believe it.  he was so responsive, asked a lot of questions, and asked me out, i was excited.  this surely isn't my first rodeo, so i didn't start planning my wedding, but i was genuinely hopeful that i was maybe going to meet a normal guy who loved Jesus.

so, friday night was date night.  we went to an italian place in the university area, which was so delicious.  highly recommend Ciro's if any of you are in the area.  afterwards, we walked around the lake and listened to live music. we talked a lot.  he was very attentive and asked lots of questions.  we ended the night by finding a park bench and sitting and talking for another hour, so it was four hours!!!  i honestly didn't see how this date could go wrong.  well, the last five minutes, is exactly how it went wrong.  while i know this part of any date is nerve-racking for anyone, usually you can say the standard, "i had a good time.  i'd love to do it again sometime. drive safe. and call it grace, but this is not how our closing of the date went down at all.  while he walked me to my car... he said, "so, it was a nice night.  i had a nice time...." gave me a side hug, to which i said, "i had a great time, it was very nice to meet you."  (still nothing on his part) so i said, "have a great rest of your weekend and enjoy your saturday."  he says, "yeah absolutely you too and please be safe driving home." now, to most this may not be a big deal, but i cannot explain my gut feeling or instincts here, all i know is that i knew in that moment that he more than likely did not have a good enough time to ask me out again.

oddly enough, i didn't have his number.  i had given him mine through email earlier in the week, in case he wanted to call to iron out our details or if he should need it for friday, but he never gave me his.  i wanted to text him and thank him for dinner, as i tend to always forget, but i wasn't able.  i asked a few friends their opinion and they said email him on saturday morning.  so, i did and i haven't heard a peep from him.  again, i am sure some of think this is normal ,part of some guy code or something, but i am not buying it. 

regardless, i am a little bummed, but this isn't my first time dealing with rejection.  i am trying harder than i have ever tried before to trust HIS plan and to remember that there is nothing i can do to fix this.  His plans are always better, and I need to give it all to him.

UPDATE:: he did have enough respect to at least email me back and say that he isn't interested, which i appreciate.  honestly, it speaks volumes to someone's character if they tell you without just disappearing, so kudos to him for that!