i am doing a throwback post tonight from my senior prom, because honestly it is just one of those stories that is just too good to not be documented, haha. it surely wasn't funny at the time, but now i can look back and realize how dumb i was at 18.
my senior prom, it was supposed to be the most fun, but it was far from that. to date, in my 18 years, it was one of the worst nights...in high school i was a bit dramatic, i'd like to say i am far less as i have matured, but i do embrace my dramatic side, haha. i went with my the guy that i thought at the time that i loved more than anything, haha. i would do anything for him. we had dated off and on and been an "item" off and on since 8th grade. [sidenote: he got into some trouble, missed a lot of
school, and basically dropped out of school. he wasn't going to be
able to go to our prom, so i stepped in and asked him to go as my date,
and i thought this was going to be the best night of my life. i just
knew that he was going to confess his love for me and we were going to
be as happy as two people could be. after all, secretly, this is what
he was telling me all the time.] one of my best friends at the time,
katie, and i were so happy, we didn't know what to do. i was going to
my senior prom with the guy that i had basically been in love with since
7th/8th grade, what could go wrong. one minor detail, did i mention, he
had a girlfriend? the only good thing i had going for me was that she
was a year older and had already graduated, so there was no way she was
coming to my prom and ruining my night, right? i am so excited, the
prom is in about two weeks, and you guessed it... i found out that he
has found another senior to take his girlfriend... as you can imagine, i
am crushed. to my 18 year old self, this was the most devastating news,
EVER. about a week before the prom, his grandmother called to find out
if i had gotten a corsage, i said no, not yet, but that if he couldn't
take care of that, my dad would get mine. at this point, i'm thinking,
things are not looking good, but i continued to be hopeful. our friends
had all rented a stretch escalade, which we were all very excited about
and planned to meet up at one of the guy's houses beforehand for
pictures. i arrive and my date is nowhere to be found. my friend katie
and her boyfriend at the time, tim are desperately trying to cheer me up
and provide hope, but i knew things were not looking good. eventually
he shows up with his girlfriend. you should probably know there was no
room for her in the stretch escalade, so apparently they arranged for
her to ride in a lexus following closely behind us (this can't get any
worse, right?). please keep reading. his tux matches her dress, his
boutonniere matched her dress, the list could keep going. i was
completely crushed, like i am pretty sure my heart was in a million
pieces, but i was determined to give him multiple chances, because this
was "our" night (remember i was 18). if you are wondering, he does
acknowledge me, at some point. many of the moms there knew how much i
liked him (so i thought loved) and made him take a few snapshots with
me... i am pretty sure my mom and grandmother could have killed him. (i
wish you guys could have seen them). they wanted me to leave and go
meet up with lindsey and crystal, but i refused. so, off we go to get
our professional pictures made. we arrive at the studio. now, of
course, i am so excited to have professional pictures made with him, and
i hear him say, well i only have money to get my picture made with my
girlfriend. i immediately reach my breaking point, run to the bathroom,
and start crying. tim (katie's boyfriend) runs to the rescue and
offers to have his picture taken with me, so i don't have to be alone in
my pictures (even typing this i am thinking does this really happen,
how pathetic). the photographer overhears what is going on, and he
steps up and says, i'll wave the setting fee for your date, he can be in
the pictures, but he won't be able to get any of the pictures. so, my
date pays for his pictures with his girlfriend and then has his picture
made with me. it was awful, the whole room was giving him evil looks,
meanwhile everyone wants to pick me up and take me out of there. the
photographer is saying things like, "get a little closer, act like you
love each other." we survive the picture studio, just barely and we head
to dinner at a japense steakhouse. don't worry, he doesn't sit by me,
nor does he pay for my dinner... he pays for hers, so i call my parents
and ask if i can use their credit card (or maybe they were going to put more money in my account, something like that), which they of course said yes. i'm
pretty sure malia walker was already out of the driveway on her way to
get me, but i had to calmly get her to reverse the car, haha. so now it
is time to finally go to the prom. we stopped at a gas station first,
and "my guy" gets me in the limo by myself, i was crying again, and he
gets in the floor and he starts telling me that it is going to be okay,
that we are going to have a good time at the prom, he is going to escort
me in, and we are going to dance, yada yada... then he kisses me. (of
course, no one knows, it was all secretive.) seriously, why didn't i
smack him upside of his head??? so, we get out of the limo, he has
proceeded to take off his button up, so now he only has a vest and
jacket on... he escorts his girlfriend into the prom, dances with her,
and leaves me at my senior prom... he actually never spoke to me. at
the after prom party, he told my friend katie, that i deserved what i
got and i had to hear him say it...(he actually called me a few choice words, but i'll keep the blog g-rated)
we didn't speak
for nearly 6 years, until katie's wedding day. i have no hard feelings
now, it is in past, and honestly i know it was God's protection that i
left Lincolnton and went to college and we never spoke again.
i sure know how to pick them... so fun!
Monday, June 3, 2013
Sunday, June 2, 2013
the music man
so, i have been laying low on the dating scene lately and truly trying to trust what is in God's plan. i signed up for six months on match, so it was about to end soon, on may 27th. match has a sixth month guarantee, if you do not meet someone, they will give you six more months for free, not going to lie, i feel so stupid that i would qualify for this, but at this point, i cannot have any pride.... i hide nothing, ha. it was exactly one week before my initial six months was to end, i'd still been checking out the "daily matches," but that was about it. i didn't know if God was trying to tell me to close my account on the 27th or opt into the additional six months. so, a week prior, i was about to go to bed and was looking through the matches, and a guy pops up that i could hardly believe (haha, i laugh at myself, please feel free to join me)...
here is a quick run down
* he works in financial sales at a bank - is employed, haha
* he talked about his faith and how that was a deal breaker for him (somewhat rare on match in general) - seriously AWESOME
* he is a part time music ministry coordinator at a church (definitely know that his faith is important)
* he likes country music (um, love this)
* he likes four wheelers and target shooting (country boy - check)
* he was cute
* huge carolina fan (GO HEELS)
so, i immediately called lindsey jo and told her and her fiance about said guy. lindsey is constantly telling me that her and andy are praying for me and my future husband. so, i just ask them to pray for clarity, God's will, me to have patience, for this guy to contact me (email me via match), etc. andy said, "well, kelsey, do you want us to pray right now?" note:: we should all make it a habit to pray more often for our friends/family on the spot. i have never in my entire life, heard such a sweet prayer. the fact that God has sent a man to my best friend, who loves her so much, and in turn, he loves her best friend... is seriously the best. i was crying through the whole prayer.
so, back to the post and said guy, he emailed me the next night!!! without boring all of you with lots of random facts about said guy, whose real name was jeremy, but lindsey gave him the nickname of "the music man, we got to know the surface level stuff and had so much in common. i couldn't believe it. he was so responsive, asked a lot of questions, and asked me out, i was excited. this surely isn't my first rodeo, so i didn't start planning my wedding, but i was genuinely hopeful that i was maybe going to meet a normal guy who loved Jesus.
so, friday night was date night. we went to an italian place in the university area, which was so delicious. highly recommend Ciro's if any of you are in the area. afterwards, we walked around the lake and listened to live music. we talked a lot. he was very attentive and asked lots of questions. we ended the night by finding a park bench and sitting and talking for another hour, so it was four hours!!! i honestly didn't see how this date could go wrong. well, the last five minutes, is exactly how it went wrong. while i know this part of any date is nerve-racking for anyone, usually you can say the standard, "i had a good time. i'd love to do it again sometime. drive safe. and call it grace, but this is not how our closing of the date went down at all. while he walked me to my car... he said, "so, it was a nice night. i had a nice time...." gave me a side hug, to which i said, "i had a great time, it was very nice to meet you." (still nothing on his part) so i said, "have a great rest of your weekend and enjoy your saturday." he says, "yeah absolutely you too and please be safe driving home." now, to most this may not be a big deal, but i cannot explain my gut feeling or instincts here, all i know is that i knew in that moment that he more than likely did not have a good enough time to ask me out again.
oddly enough, i didn't have his number. i had given him mine through email earlier in the week, in case he wanted to call to iron out our details or if he should need it for friday, but he never gave me his. i wanted to text him and thank him for dinner, as i tend to always forget, but i wasn't able. i asked a few friends their opinion and they said email him on saturday morning. so, i did and i haven't heard a peep from him. again, i am sure some of think this is normal ,part of some guy code or something, but i am not buying it.
regardless, i am a little bummed, but this isn't my first time dealing with rejection. i am trying harder than i have ever tried before to trust HIS plan and to remember that there is nothing i can do to fix this. His plans are always better, and I need to give it all to him.
UPDATE:: he did have enough respect to at least email me back and say that he isn't interested, which i appreciate. honestly, it speaks volumes to someone's character if they tell you without just disappearing, so kudos to him for that!
here is a quick run down
* he works in financial sales at a bank - is employed, haha
* he talked about his faith and how that was a deal breaker for him (somewhat rare on match in general) - seriously AWESOME
* he is a part time music ministry coordinator at a church (definitely know that his faith is important)
* he likes country music (um, love this)
* he likes four wheelers and target shooting (country boy - check)
* he was cute
* huge carolina fan (GO HEELS)
so, i immediately called lindsey jo and told her and her fiance about said guy. lindsey is constantly telling me that her and andy are praying for me and my future husband. so, i just ask them to pray for clarity, God's will, me to have patience, for this guy to contact me (email me via match), etc. andy said, "well, kelsey, do you want us to pray right now?" note:: we should all make it a habit to pray more often for our friends/family on the spot. i have never in my entire life, heard such a sweet prayer. the fact that God has sent a man to my best friend, who loves her so much, and in turn, he loves her best friend... is seriously the best. i was crying through the whole prayer.
so, back to the post and said guy, he emailed me the next night!!! without boring all of you with lots of random facts about said guy, whose real name was jeremy, but lindsey gave him the nickname of "the music man, we got to know the surface level stuff and had so much in common. i couldn't believe it. he was so responsive, asked a lot of questions, and asked me out, i was excited. this surely isn't my first rodeo, so i didn't start planning my wedding, but i was genuinely hopeful that i was maybe going to meet a normal guy who loved Jesus.
so, friday night was date night. we went to an italian place in the university area, which was so delicious. highly recommend Ciro's if any of you are in the area. afterwards, we walked around the lake and listened to live music. we talked a lot. he was very attentive and asked lots of questions. we ended the night by finding a park bench and sitting and talking for another hour, so it was four hours!!! i honestly didn't see how this date could go wrong. well, the last five minutes, is exactly how it went wrong. while i know this part of any date is nerve-racking for anyone, usually you can say the standard, "i had a good time. i'd love to do it again sometime. drive safe. and call it grace, but this is not how our closing of the date went down at all. while he walked me to my car... he said, "so, it was a nice night. i had a nice time...." gave me a side hug, to which i said, "i had a great time, it was very nice to meet you." (still nothing on his part) so i said, "have a great rest of your weekend and enjoy your saturday." he says, "yeah absolutely you too and please be safe driving home." now, to most this may not be a big deal, but i cannot explain my gut feeling or instincts here, all i know is that i knew in that moment that he more than likely did not have a good enough time to ask me out again.
oddly enough, i didn't have his number. i had given him mine through email earlier in the week, in case he wanted to call to iron out our details or if he should need it for friday, but he never gave me his. i wanted to text him and thank him for dinner, as i tend to always forget, but i wasn't able. i asked a few friends their opinion and they said email him on saturday morning. so, i did and i haven't heard a peep from him. again, i am sure some of think this is normal ,part of some guy code or something, but i am not buying it.
regardless, i am a little bummed, but this isn't my first time dealing with rejection. i am trying harder than i have ever tried before to trust HIS plan and to remember that there is nothing i can do to fix this. His plans are always better, and I need to give it all to him.
UPDATE:: he did have enough respect to at least email me back and say that he isn't interested, which i appreciate. honestly, it speaks volumes to someone's character if they tell you without just disappearing, so kudos to him for that!
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