so, i had taken a bit of a break with this whole dating thing, and i have been praying that i would go on less dates. why, do you ask? it is truly quite simple... i want to meet my husband. going on countless dates, is not fun, so i am trying to be more specific.
i had a guy email me, and he tried a completely different approach. he had a youtube video in his profile, say what? it was completely different, and i thought why not email him back. we emailed once or twice and then he wanted to speak on the phone. so, i somewhat reluctantly gave him my number (probably not a good sign from day 1). he then proceeded to schedule a phone date. i guess, i shouldn't complain as guys calling is such a lost art, so i'll give him that. he wanted to call the week i was out of town, so finding a time, i would have more than 5 minutes was challenging. finally, i decided when i was driving home would be best. i can honestly say, i have never had quite the convo. i felt like was i was on a job interview/having my personality assessed. it was crazy. he would say things like, "so, what makes kelsey happy?" as if, i wasn't on the phone... who talks about someone in third person when they are speaking to that person, so strange. he owns his own company, so he is constantly thinking strategy and how to be more successful. at the end of a very painful, somewhat comical conversation, he invited me to a toastmaster's meeting for a first date/meeting... i couldn't laugh hard enough. i told him, i could think of nothing worse, as public speaking is my biggest fear in life. i think he needs to scale it back a bit, if he wants to find a wife... HAVE FUN dude. he didn't even get a nickname.
moving on to the next one, this is one of those that you are very hopeful, but at the end of the day there is no connection. we emailed for two weeks, talked on the phone for a week... yall, we had a lot in common. he loved sports, he loved kids, he was up for trying new adventures, he LOVED Jesus, and so much more. there were also a few caution flags (he talked more than me, how is this even possible, and he was Southern Baptist and sang in a Southern Gospel Trio - like they performed and traveled every Sunday around NC and SC). i was raised Southern Baptist, this isn't necessarily a dealbreaker, but in my early 20s, i figured out my faith on my own, and i wanted away from the hell, fire, and brimstone preaching. i wanted to hear more about a loving relationship with God. we finally met on Saturday for lunch. there was no connection/attraction/chemistry and i could tell immediately. i was so bummed and discouraged, as i thought there could be something there.
i continue to pray for God's perfect timing. you just have to keep going.
