so, i've been praying a lot about this, but i closed my match.com account today. i need a break from the first dates that go horribly wrong, from the exhausting emails and phone conversations, and from letting "not the right ones" know details about me. while many of my single girlfriends may find dating fun or even think of it as a hobby, i do not. i am not necessarily taking a break from dating, if friends want to set me up with someone who legitimently could be a great potential that would be wonderful, but i need a break from the online dating world.
it is funny, about two years ago, i prayed all the time for dates. i felt so alone, so unattractive (that is a whole other story, my struggle with self esteem/confidence), etc and God has answered that prayer, but now my prayer has changed. i no longer want to go on dates, i just want to date my husband. dating, especially the wrong guys, these weirdos, can leave you feeling more empty and lonely. i know that sounds strange, but unless you've experienced a season of going on several first dates, you probably just do not understand.
i am not saying i will never do online dating again, let's face it i work from home (by myself), my church community is AWESOME (but not thriving in the single's community), and i am not sure where else i would meet someone. until then i am going to pray that God will give me patience in the waiting, that i will be joyful/thankful for the awesome friends i have, and that i will be the future wife to my husband one whenever God decides it is time for me to meet him.
Sunday, July 7, 2013
party like a rock star
all guys get a nickname, some are better than others, a nickname isn't always bad, but this one as you can imagine isn't a good one to start out with. this one is brought to you by another online dating guy, which the next post will provide you with an update where i stand with all of that, but here goes...
"party like a rock star" seemed like a very nice guy, a little younger than me (27) and we all know i am pretty mature for my age, so i approach younger than me with caution to start. he grew up in GA, loves nascar and has always wanted to be a driver. he is actually best friends with a current driver in the big series, and when he first moved to charlotte that is what he did, he worked for said best friend, on his team. now, he works in sales as a brake distributor for the smaller circuit, maybe dirt track races or something of that nature. our first two phone conversations were great, i laughed a lot, but there were caution flags (no pun intended here with the nascar theme, ha). he mentioned that he loves to head to the lake and his group of friends loves to drink. he said when his guy friends get a night off from their girlfriends and wives, they party hard to the point of blacking out. my reaction:: say what? i am 30 years old and never have i reached a point of blacking out, nor do i desire too. i rarely drink, more just on a casual/social basis with friends, so this is one of the most unattractive things to me. well, there are a lot of unattractive things, but this ranks high up there. he tried to tell me that he is somewhat done with this phase of his life, and i am just not sure if i believe it. not trying to be judgmental, just based off of our continued conversations, i am thinking he is not.
regardless, i still met him prior to my haiti trip, and it was a less than thrilling meeting. i mean, he was so incredibly nice, but there wasn't really a spark, and as with so many of the guys on match... his faith just doesn't seem important. he said he was raised southern baptist, but has lived in charlotte for over a year and doesn't currently attend a church.
i was going to give him a second chance and maybe at least try to grab a bite to eat with him, but now i am thinking what is the point, if he isn't the one, he just isn't. another bites the dust!
"party like a rock star" seemed like a very nice guy, a little younger than me (27) and we all know i am pretty mature for my age, so i approach younger than me with caution to start. he grew up in GA, loves nascar and has always wanted to be a driver. he is actually best friends with a current driver in the big series, and when he first moved to charlotte that is what he did, he worked for said best friend, on his team. now, he works in sales as a brake distributor for the smaller circuit, maybe dirt track races or something of that nature. our first two phone conversations were great, i laughed a lot, but there were caution flags (no pun intended here with the nascar theme, ha). he mentioned that he loves to head to the lake and his group of friends loves to drink. he said when his guy friends get a night off from their girlfriends and wives, they party hard to the point of blacking out. my reaction:: say what? i am 30 years old and never have i reached a point of blacking out, nor do i desire too. i rarely drink, more just on a casual/social basis with friends, so this is one of the most unattractive things to me. well, there are a lot of unattractive things, but this ranks high up there. he tried to tell me that he is somewhat done with this phase of his life, and i am just not sure if i believe it. not trying to be judgmental, just based off of our continued conversations, i am thinking he is not.
regardless, i still met him prior to my haiti trip, and it was a less than thrilling meeting. i mean, he was so incredibly nice, but there wasn't really a spark, and as with so many of the guys on match... his faith just doesn't seem important. he said he was raised southern baptist, but has lived in charlotte for over a year and doesn't currently attend a church.
i was going to give him a second chance and maybe at least try to grab a bite to eat with him, but now i am thinking what is the point, if he isn't the one, he just isn't. another bites the dust!
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