so, i absolutely love that my friends are into this nickname thing, it is quite fun coming up with the nickname. i really hope my future husband enjoys that he too will have a nickname, but i surely hope he gets a sweet one in the beginning! so, we have a new guy that has entered the scene folks. i haven't met him yet, and typically i try not to blog about it until i meet him, but i felt like i had enough material to go ahead and start one. so, said guy's nicknames are sweettalkintodd or ladder31. you see, my best friend since the great age of 5 is playing matchmaker. she doesn't typically like this role, as she has tried before and it didn't work out. she met sweettalkintodd at a fire conference with her husband last year and then saw him again this year. so, she set this in motion and here we are. you see, he quickly became "STT" for short because from the very first text he sent me, he has called me "sweetie." this makes me want to vomit. now don't get my wrong, eventually one day, i am sure if my boyfriend or husband wants to call me sweetie or some sweet name, i will be okay with it, but to me someone calling me that that has never once met me, it feels cheap. it is probably something he calls every girls he talks to. literally, every text he addresses to me, has the word sweetie in it, which makes it difficult for me to want to respond. STT also keeps his name because all he does is text, which is this girls number one pet peeve. (ladder31 comes from the fact that he is a fire fighter and he is 31 years old.)
so, in the week or so he has had my number, he has only called once. he has texted me everyday, but he only texts twice a day, with the exactly same robotic text daily... "good morning sweetie or beautiful" in the morning and then "goodnight sweetie, hope you had a good day." if someone could please explain to me how i am supposed to get to know someone by two simple texts a day, i would love to know. literally, he doesn't ask questions, doesn't call, and this girl is already super annoyed. so, last night i called him out on it... think that did any good, absolutely not. i mean, i'd really like to get to know him, the one conversation we did have, he seemed super nice.
we have a date planned for this coming sunday, but this weekend i had my saturday night open up so i offered to him. any single girl knows, opening up one of your prime weekend nights to a guy you do not know is huge. i texted him (his favorite means of communication) on friday and told him and offered to meet him at the halfway point (um, how nice is that) and he said, "well... i will have to let you know if i can work that out." well, okay, not exactly one of the two responses i was expecting, but okay, STT, you do that, and let me know. this Type A girl wanted a response ASAP, just a simple yes or no, but of course, he never bothered to follow back up. so at 9:30pm saturday night he texted me and said his typical goodnight message. i was so annoyed and irritated. so, of course, with my no filter, i called him out and asked why he at least didn't let me know one way or the other. he said, he didn't want to bother me? say what? i explained to him that if a girl offers to go out with you earlier, that means she wants to go, that isn't bothering her? i told him we could just call it miscommunication, but in all honesty, i was very clear in my communication to him, he just didn't get it???
you are probably wondering why i am even still considering going on date that is planned for sunday, well because i know i am quirky, i know i have super high standards, and i know that sometimes i can make assumptions and so, i am trying really hard to give him a chance. maybe he will surprise me on sunday in person. i have a work trip that requires three hours of driving tomorrow evening and we are supposed to talk then, so we will see.
on a side note, my great neighbors/friends have maybe convinced me to try christian mingle. i am going to pray about it this week, but i guess i figure why not, at least i would have a little more confidence that the guy signed up on a christian dating website, right?
update:: STT or ladder31 never followed up on taking me out or meeting for dinner or coffee. for lack of a better explanation, i think it is safe to say that he was just clueless. i literally sent him a text saying the following "So, I told myself I would give it until today (Sunday the day of the planned date). When we spoke last Wednesday, we discussed and I thought made tentative plans to meet today/tonight. Since you haven't called all week and today came and you made no mention of it... I think it is safe to say, this isn't going anywhere. Not exactly sure what it is, but I just want to meet a guy who wants to genuinely get to know me and take me out so he can get to know me better. So with all of that, I think we can move on and say good luck and be just fine:)" to which i got a simple reply an hour later, that said, "Ok well good luck"
folks, i cannot make this stuff up, i say it all the time, so another one bites the dust.
Monday, August 19, 2013
Sunday, August 11, 2013
melvin, such a memorable one
i thought i'd quickly write about this one... it is a good one. note to self:: don't ever agree to go on a blind date with a wish mom's nephew. i was a new wish granter in 2008 and had just moved to charlotte. said wish mom asked if i was single, to which the answer unfortunately is always, yes. maybe i should wear my biological father's engagement ring he had given to my mother many moons ago and say, no to avoid this question, always. back to story... she then proceeded to go on and on about her nephew that she would LOVE to set me up with. i was very hesitant only knowing this lady for all of five minutes, but a lunch or dinner can only last so long, right? i actually tried to avoid her follow up calls pertaining to this set up, but she was very persistent, i'll give her that. so, she preceded to tell me that her nephew's name was, get ready... "Melvin." oh dear, what a name. my best friend, holly, has a thing with names, and usually it doesn't bother me, but for some reason this one did... what a name, haha. so, he called and i could tell he was very country. many of you who know me, know that i have a thick southern accent, so this wasn't off putting to me, too much, but this was that real country! so we talk on the phone once or twice and then he tells me that he wants to take me to, get ready... Ruth's Chris, say what? for a first date, um... let me think on that one, NO. what if he is missing teeth, what if i cannot carry on a conversation with him face to face, i can think of nowhere that would be worse. so i had to legitimately explain why i didn't want to go there, haha. still to this day, haven't been and would love to, but that wasn't the appropriate time. so, we agreed on a lunch date at chili's. he shows up, mind you, i still haven't seen him, and he was literally the skinniest guy i think i have ever seen. last time i checked, i was not a size 0 and never have been, so this was a huge turn off to me. on top of this, he had on wrangler jeans circa 1990 with a braided belt, loafers, and a blue/yellow checkered short sleeve button up... i honestly couldn't believe it. i know i sound super shallow right now, but this outfit was something a grandpa might wear, the braided belt about sent me over the edge. regardless, we went in and had lunch and the conversation was just straight up painful. we had absolutely nothing in common. after the 45 minute lunch, we walked outside and he said, "i'd love to do this again sometime." i said, "thank you so much for lunch. have a great day." i really hope he found someone that he had lots in common with, but good ole melvin wasn't for me.
Sunday, July 7, 2013
taking a break
so, i've been praying a lot about this, but i closed my match.com account today. i need a break from the first dates that go horribly wrong, from the exhausting emails and phone conversations, and from letting "not the right ones" know details about me. while many of my single girlfriends may find dating fun or even think of it as a hobby, i do not. i am not necessarily taking a break from dating, if friends want to set me up with someone who legitimently could be a great potential that would be wonderful, but i need a break from the online dating world.
it is funny, about two years ago, i prayed all the time for dates. i felt so alone, so unattractive (that is a whole other story, my struggle with self esteem/confidence), etc and God has answered that prayer, but now my prayer has changed. i no longer want to go on dates, i just want to date my husband. dating, especially the wrong guys, these weirdos, can leave you feeling more empty and lonely. i know that sounds strange, but unless you've experienced a season of going on several first dates, you probably just do not understand.
i am not saying i will never do online dating again, let's face it i work from home (by myself), my church community is AWESOME (but not thriving in the single's community), and i am not sure where else i would meet someone. until then i am going to pray that God will give me patience in the waiting, that i will be joyful/thankful for the awesome friends i have, and that i will be the future wife to my husband one whenever God decides it is time for me to meet him.
it is funny, about two years ago, i prayed all the time for dates. i felt so alone, so unattractive (that is a whole other story, my struggle with self esteem/confidence), etc and God has answered that prayer, but now my prayer has changed. i no longer want to go on dates, i just want to date my husband. dating, especially the wrong guys, these weirdos, can leave you feeling more empty and lonely. i know that sounds strange, but unless you've experienced a season of going on several first dates, you probably just do not understand.
i am not saying i will never do online dating again, let's face it i work from home (by myself), my church community is AWESOME (but not thriving in the single's community), and i am not sure where else i would meet someone. until then i am going to pray that God will give me patience in the waiting, that i will be joyful/thankful for the awesome friends i have, and that i will be the future wife to my husband one whenever God decides it is time for me to meet him.
party like a rock star
all guys get a nickname, some are better than others, a nickname isn't always bad, but this one as you can imagine isn't a good one to start out with. this one is brought to you by another online dating guy, which the next post will provide you with an update where i stand with all of that, but here goes...
"party like a rock star" seemed like a very nice guy, a little younger than me (27) and we all know i am pretty mature for my age, so i approach younger than me with caution to start. he grew up in GA, loves nascar and has always wanted to be a driver. he is actually best friends with a current driver in the big series, and when he first moved to charlotte that is what he did, he worked for said best friend, on his team. now, he works in sales as a brake distributor for the smaller circuit, maybe dirt track races or something of that nature. our first two phone conversations were great, i laughed a lot, but there were caution flags (no pun intended here with the nascar theme, ha). he mentioned that he loves to head to the lake and his group of friends loves to drink. he said when his guy friends get a night off from their girlfriends and wives, they party hard to the point of blacking out. my reaction:: say what? i am 30 years old and never have i reached a point of blacking out, nor do i desire too. i rarely drink, more just on a casual/social basis with friends, so this is one of the most unattractive things to me. well, there are a lot of unattractive things, but this ranks high up there. he tried to tell me that he is somewhat done with this phase of his life, and i am just not sure if i believe it. not trying to be judgmental, just based off of our continued conversations, i am thinking he is not.
regardless, i still met him prior to my haiti trip, and it was a less than thrilling meeting. i mean, he was so incredibly nice, but there wasn't really a spark, and as with so many of the guys on match... his faith just doesn't seem important. he said he was raised southern baptist, but has lived in charlotte for over a year and doesn't currently attend a church.
i was going to give him a second chance and maybe at least try to grab a bite to eat with him, but now i am thinking what is the point, if he isn't the one, he just isn't. another bites the dust!
"party like a rock star" seemed like a very nice guy, a little younger than me (27) and we all know i am pretty mature for my age, so i approach younger than me with caution to start. he grew up in GA, loves nascar and has always wanted to be a driver. he is actually best friends with a current driver in the big series, and when he first moved to charlotte that is what he did, he worked for said best friend, on his team. now, he works in sales as a brake distributor for the smaller circuit, maybe dirt track races or something of that nature. our first two phone conversations were great, i laughed a lot, but there were caution flags (no pun intended here with the nascar theme, ha). he mentioned that he loves to head to the lake and his group of friends loves to drink. he said when his guy friends get a night off from their girlfriends and wives, they party hard to the point of blacking out. my reaction:: say what? i am 30 years old and never have i reached a point of blacking out, nor do i desire too. i rarely drink, more just on a casual/social basis with friends, so this is one of the most unattractive things to me. well, there are a lot of unattractive things, but this ranks high up there. he tried to tell me that he is somewhat done with this phase of his life, and i am just not sure if i believe it. not trying to be judgmental, just based off of our continued conversations, i am thinking he is not.
regardless, i still met him prior to my haiti trip, and it was a less than thrilling meeting. i mean, he was so incredibly nice, but there wasn't really a spark, and as with so many of the guys on match... his faith just doesn't seem important. he said he was raised southern baptist, but has lived in charlotte for over a year and doesn't currently attend a church.
i was going to give him a second chance and maybe at least try to grab a bite to eat with him, but now i am thinking what is the point, if he isn't the one, he just isn't. another bites the dust!
Monday, June 3, 2013
old school:: senior prom
i am doing a throwback post tonight from my senior prom, because honestly it is just one of those stories that is just too good to not be documented, haha. it surely wasn't funny at the time, but now i can look back and realize how dumb i was at 18.
my senior prom, it was supposed to be the most fun, but it was far from that. to date, in my 18 years, it was one of the worst nights...in high school i was a bit dramatic, i'd like to say i am far less as i have matured, but i do embrace my dramatic side, haha. i went with my the guy that i thought at the time that i loved more than anything, haha. i would do anything for him. we had dated off and on and been an "item" off and on since 8th grade. [sidenote: he got into some trouble, missed a lot of school, and basically dropped out of school. he wasn't going to be able to go to our prom, so i stepped in and asked him to go as my date, and i thought this was going to be the best night of my life. i just knew that he was going to confess his love for me and we were going to be as happy as two people could be. after all, secretly, this is what he was telling me all the time.] one of my best friends at the time, katie, and i were so happy, we didn't know what to do. i was going to my senior prom with the guy that i had basically been in love with since 7th/8th grade, what could go wrong. one minor detail, did i mention, he had a girlfriend? the only good thing i had going for me was that she was a year older and had already graduated, so there was no way she was coming to my prom and ruining my night, right? i am so excited, the prom is in about two weeks, and you guessed it... i found out that he has found another senior to take his girlfriend... as you can imagine, i am crushed. to my 18 year old self, this was the most devastating news, EVER. about a week before the prom, his grandmother called to find out if i had gotten a corsage, i said no, not yet, but that if he couldn't take care of that, my dad would get mine. at this point, i'm thinking, things are not looking good, but i continued to be hopeful. our friends had all rented a stretch escalade, which we were all very excited about and planned to meet up at one of the guy's houses beforehand for pictures. i arrive and my date is nowhere to be found. my friend katie and her boyfriend at the time, tim are desperately trying to cheer me up and provide hope, but i knew things were not looking good. eventually he shows up with his girlfriend. you should probably know there was no room for her in the stretch escalade, so apparently they arranged for her to ride in a lexus following closely behind us (this can't get any worse, right?). please keep reading. his tux matches her dress, his boutonniere matched her dress, the list could keep going. i was completely crushed, like i am pretty sure my heart was in a million pieces, but i was determined to give him multiple chances, because this was "our" night (remember i was 18). if you are wondering, he does acknowledge me, at some point. many of the moms there knew how much i liked him (so i thought loved) and made him take a few snapshots with me... i am pretty sure my mom and grandmother could have killed him. (i wish you guys could have seen them). they wanted me to leave and go meet up with lindsey and crystal, but i refused. so, off we go to get our professional pictures made. we arrive at the studio. now, of course, i am so excited to have professional pictures made with him, and i hear him say, well i only have money to get my picture made with my girlfriend. i immediately reach my breaking point, run to the bathroom, and start crying. tim (katie's boyfriend) runs to the rescue and offers to have his picture taken with me, so i don't have to be alone in my pictures (even typing this i am thinking does this really happen, how pathetic). the photographer overhears what is going on, and he steps up and says, i'll wave the setting fee for your date, he can be in the pictures, but he won't be able to get any of the pictures. so, my date pays for his pictures with his girlfriend and then has his picture made with me. it was awful, the whole room was giving him evil looks, meanwhile everyone wants to pick me up and take me out of there. the photographer is saying things like, "get a little closer, act like you love each other." we survive the picture studio, just barely and we head to dinner at a japense steakhouse. don't worry, he doesn't sit by me, nor does he pay for my dinner... he pays for hers, so i call my parents and ask if i can use their credit card (or maybe they were going to put more money in my account, something like that), which they of course said yes. i'm pretty sure malia walker was already out of the driveway on her way to get me, but i had to calmly get her to reverse the car, haha. so now it is time to finally go to the prom. we stopped at a gas station first, and "my guy" gets me in the limo by myself, i was crying again, and he gets in the floor and he starts telling me that it is going to be okay, that we are going to have a good time at the prom, he is going to escort me in, and we are going to dance, yada yada... then he kisses me. (of course, no one knows, it was all secretive.) seriously, why didn't i smack him upside of his head??? so, we get out of the limo, he has proceeded to take off his button up, so now he only has a vest and jacket on... he escorts his girlfriend into the prom, dances with her, and leaves me at my senior prom... he actually never spoke to me. at the after prom party, he told my friend katie, that i deserved what i got and i had to hear him say it...(he actually called me a few choice words, but i'll keep the blog g-rated)
we didn't speak for nearly 6 years, until katie's wedding day. i have no hard feelings now, it is in past, and honestly i know it was God's protection that i left Lincolnton and went to college and we never spoke again.
i sure know how to pick them... so fun!
my senior prom, it was supposed to be the most fun, but it was far from that. to date, in my 18 years, it was one of the worst nights...in high school i was a bit dramatic, i'd like to say i am far less as i have matured, but i do embrace my dramatic side, haha. i went with my the guy that i thought at the time that i loved more than anything, haha. i would do anything for him. we had dated off and on and been an "item" off and on since 8th grade. [sidenote: he got into some trouble, missed a lot of school, and basically dropped out of school. he wasn't going to be able to go to our prom, so i stepped in and asked him to go as my date, and i thought this was going to be the best night of my life. i just knew that he was going to confess his love for me and we were going to be as happy as two people could be. after all, secretly, this is what he was telling me all the time.] one of my best friends at the time, katie, and i were so happy, we didn't know what to do. i was going to my senior prom with the guy that i had basically been in love with since 7th/8th grade, what could go wrong. one minor detail, did i mention, he had a girlfriend? the only good thing i had going for me was that she was a year older and had already graduated, so there was no way she was coming to my prom and ruining my night, right? i am so excited, the prom is in about two weeks, and you guessed it... i found out that he has found another senior to take his girlfriend... as you can imagine, i am crushed. to my 18 year old self, this was the most devastating news, EVER. about a week before the prom, his grandmother called to find out if i had gotten a corsage, i said no, not yet, but that if he couldn't take care of that, my dad would get mine. at this point, i'm thinking, things are not looking good, but i continued to be hopeful. our friends had all rented a stretch escalade, which we were all very excited about and planned to meet up at one of the guy's houses beforehand for pictures. i arrive and my date is nowhere to be found. my friend katie and her boyfriend at the time, tim are desperately trying to cheer me up and provide hope, but i knew things were not looking good. eventually he shows up with his girlfriend. you should probably know there was no room for her in the stretch escalade, so apparently they arranged for her to ride in a lexus following closely behind us (this can't get any worse, right?). please keep reading. his tux matches her dress, his boutonniere matched her dress, the list could keep going. i was completely crushed, like i am pretty sure my heart was in a million pieces, but i was determined to give him multiple chances, because this was "our" night (remember i was 18). if you are wondering, he does acknowledge me, at some point. many of the moms there knew how much i liked him (so i thought loved) and made him take a few snapshots with me... i am pretty sure my mom and grandmother could have killed him. (i wish you guys could have seen them). they wanted me to leave and go meet up with lindsey and crystal, but i refused. so, off we go to get our professional pictures made. we arrive at the studio. now, of course, i am so excited to have professional pictures made with him, and i hear him say, well i only have money to get my picture made with my girlfriend. i immediately reach my breaking point, run to the bathroom, and start crying. tim (katie's boyfriend) runs to the rescue and offers to have his picture taken with me, so i don't have to be alone in my pictures (even typing this i am thinking does this really happen, how pathetic). the photographer overhears what is going on, and he steps up and says, i'll wave the setting fee for your date, he can be in the pictures, but he won't be able to get any of the pictures. so, my date pays for his pictures with his girlfriend and then has his picture made with me. it was awful, the whole room was giving him evil looks, meanwhile everyone wants to pick me up and take me out of there. the photographer is saying things like, "get a little closer, act like you love each other." we survive the picture studio, just barely and we head to dinner at a japense steakhouse. don't worry, he doesn't sit by me, nor does he pay for my dinner... he pays for hers, so i call my parents and ask if i can use their credit card (or maybe they were going to put more money in my account, something like that), which they of course said yes. i'm pretty sure malia walker was already out of the driveway on her way to get me, but i had to calmly get her to reverse the car, haha. so now it is time to finally go to the prom. we stopped at a gas station first, and "my guy" gets me in the limo by myself, i was crying again, and he gets in the floor and he starts telling me that it is going to be okay, that we are going to have a good time at the prom, he is going to escort me in, and we are going to dance, yada yada... then he kisses me. (of course, no one knows, it was all secretive.) seriously, why didn't i smack him upside of his head??? so, we get out of the limo, he has proceeded to take off his button up, so now he only has a vest and jacket on... he escorts his girlfriend into the prom, dances with her, and leaves me at my senior prom... he actually never spoke to me. at the after prom party, he told my friend katie, that i deserved what i got and i had to hear him say it...(he actually called me a few choice words, but i'll keep the blog g-rated)
we didn't speak for nearly 6 years, until katie's wedding day. i have no hard feelings now, it is in past, and honestly i know it was God's protection that i left Lincolnton and went to college and we never spoke again.
i sure know how to pick them... so fun!
Sunday, June 2, 2013
the music man
so, i have been laying low on the dating scene lately and truly trying to trust what is in God's plan. i signed up for six months on match, so it was about to end soon, on may 27th. match has a sixth month guarantee, if you do not meet someone, they will give you six more months for free, not going to lie, i feel so stupid that i would qualify for this, but at this point, i cannot have any pride.... i hide nothing, ha. it was exactly one week before my initial six months was to end, i'd still been checking out the "daily matches," but that was about it. i didn't know if God was trying to tell me to close my account on the 27th or opt into the additional six months. so, a week prior, i was about to go to bed and was looking through the matches, and a guy pops up that i could hardly believe (haha, i laugh at myself, please feel free to join me)...
here is a quick run down
* he works in financial sales at a bank - is employed, haha
* he talked about his faith and how that was a deal breaker for him (somewhat rare on match in general) - seriously AWESOME
* he is a part time music ministry coordinator at a church (definitely know that his faith is important)
* he likes country music (um, love this)
* he likes four wheelers and target shooting (country boy - check)
* he was cute
* huge carolina fan (GO HEELS)
so, i immediately called lindsey jo and told her and her fiance about said guy. lindsey is constantly telling me that her and andy are praying for me and my future husband. so, i just ask them to pray for clarity, God's will, me to have patience, for this guy to contact me (email me via match), etc. andy said, "well, kelsey, do you want us to pray right now?" note:: we should all make it a habit to pray more often for our friends/family on the spot. i have never in my entire life, heard such a sweet prayer. the fact that God has sent a man to my best friend, who loves her so much, and in turn, he loves her best friend... is seriously the best. i was crying through the whole prayer.
so, back to the post and said guy, he emailed me the next night!!! without boring all of you with lots of random facts about said guy, whose real name was jeremy, but lindsey gave him the nickname of "the music man, we got to know the surface level stuff and had so much in common. i couldn't believe it. he was so responsive, asked a lot of questions, and asked me out, i was excited. this surely isn't my first rodeo, so i didn't start planning my wedding, but i was genuinely hopeful that i was maybe going to meet a normal guy who loved Jesus.
so, friday night was date night. we went to an italian place in the university area, which was so delicious. highly recommend Ciro's if any of you are in the area. afterwards, we walked around the lake and listened to live music. we talked a lot. he was very attentive and asked lots of questions. we ended the night by finding a park bench and sitting and talking for another hour, so it was four hours!!! i honestly didn't see how this date could go wrong. well, the last five minutes, is exactly how it went wrong. while i know this part of any date is nerve-racking for anyone, usually you can say the standard, "i had a good time. i'd love to do it again sometime. drive safe. and call it grace, but this is not how our closing of the date went down at all. while he walked me to my car... he said, "so, it was a nice night. i had a nice time...." gave me a side hug, to which i said, "i had a great time, it was very nice to meet you." (still nothing on his part) so i said, "have a great rest of your weekend and enjoy your saturday." he says, "yeah absolutely you too and please be safe driving home." now, to most this may not be a big deal, but i cannot explain my gut feeling or instincts here, all i know is that i knew in that moment that he more than likely did not have a good enough time to ask me out again.
oddly enough, i didn't have his number. i had given him mine through email earlier in the week, in case he wanted to call to iron out our details or if he should need it for friday, but he never gave me his. i wanted to text him and thank him for dinner, as i tend to always forget, but i wasn't able. i asked a few friends their opinion and they said email him on saturday morning. so, i did and i haven't heard a peep from him. again, i am sure some of think this is normal ,part of some guy code or something, but i am not buying it.
regardless, i am a little bummed, but this isn't my first time dealing with rejection. i am trying harder than i have ever tried before to trust HIS plan and to remember that there is nothing i can do to fix this. His plans are always better, and I need to give it all to him.
UPDATE:: he did have enough respect to at least email me back and say that he isn't interested, which i appreciate. honestly, it speaks volumes to someone's character if they tell you without just disappearing, so kudos to him for that!
here is a quick run down
* he works in financial sales at a bank - is employed, haha
* he talked about his faith and how that was a deal breaker for him (somewhat rare on match in general) - seriously AWESOME
* he is a part time music ministry coordinator at a church (definitely know that his faith is important)
* he likes country music (um, love this)
* he likes four wheelers and target shooting (country boy - check)
* he was cute
* huge carolina fan (GO HEELS)
so, i immediately called lindsey jo and told her and her fiance about said guy. lindsey is constantly telling me that her and andy are praying for me and my future husband. so, i just ask them to pray for clarity, God's will, me to have patience, for this guy to contact me (email me via match), etc. andy said, "well, kelsey, do you want us to pray right now?" note:: we should all make it a habit to pray more often for our friends/family on the spot. i have never in my entire life, heard such a sweet prayer. the fact that God has sent a man to my best friend, who loves her so much, and in turn, he loves her best friend... is seriously the best. i was crying through the whole prayer.
so, back to the post and said guy, he emailed me the next night!!! without boring all of you with lots of random facts about said guy, whose real name was jeremy, but lindsey gave him the nickname of "the music man, we got to know the surface level stuff and had so much in common. i couldn't believe it. he was so responsive, asked a lot of questions, and asked me out, i was excited. this surely isn't my first rodeo, so i didn't start planning my wedding, but i was genuinely hopeful that i was maybe going to meet a normal guy who loved Jesus.
so, friday night was date night. we went to an italian place in the university area, which was so delicious. highly recommend Ciro's if any of you are in the area. afterwards, we walked around the lake and listened to live music. we talked a lot. he was very attentive and asked lots of questions. we ended the night by finding a park bench and sitting and talking for another hour, so it was four hours!!! i honestly didn't see how this date could go wrong. well, the last five minutes, is exactly how it went wrong. while i know this part of any date is nerve-racking for anyone, usually you can say the standard, "i had a good time. i'd love to do it again sometime. drive safe. and call it grace, but this is not how our closing of the date went down at all. while he walked me to my car... he said, "so, it was a nice night. i had a nice time...." gave me a side hug, to which i said, "i had a great time, it was very nice to meet you." (still nothing on his part) so i said, "have a great rest of your weekend and enjoy your saturday." he says, "yeah absolutely you too and please be safe driving home." now, to most this may not be a big deal, but i cannot explain my gut feeling or instincts here, all i know is that i knew in that moment that he more than likely did not have a good enough time to ask me out again.
oddly enough, i didn't have his number. i had given him mine through email earlier in the week, in case he wanted to call to iron out our details or if he should need it for friday, but he never gave me his. i wanted to text him and thank him for dinner, as i tend to always forget, but i wasn't able. i asked a few friends their opinion and they said email him on saturday morning. so, i did and i haven't heard a peep from him. again, i am sure some of think this is normal ,part of some guy code or something, but i am not buying it.
regardless, i am a little bummed, but this isn't my first time dealing with rejection. i am trying harder than i have ever tried before to trust HIS plan and to remember that there is nothing i can do to fix this. His plans are always better, and I need to give it all to him.
UPDATE:: he did have enough respect to at least email me back and say that he isn't interested, which i appreciate. honestly, it speaks volumes to someone's character if they tell you without just disappearing, so kudos to him for that!
Friday, May 24, 2013
the new trend
so, now the new thing is guys want to face time or skype before meeting, okay they are taking this technology thing a little too far, what in the world?!? would it be so awful to meet for coffee and not date through technology. the other night a guy asked if we could skype and i said, "no, i prefer to date in person and not have a relationship through modern technology." what in this world guys, get a clue, girls do not want to date through texting, facetime... take it old school. it is funny, i got a text from one of my good friends here in charlotte, of some beautiful flowers. no lie, a guy she was going out with last night, showed up at her door, brought her flowers, opened her door, took her to dinner, and brought her back home:) i was so encouraged that there are guys that still know how to treat a girl:)
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